Going Where He’s Dreamed of Going

They all look the same, these Marine recruits on the parade deck in San Diego, California. But the one just to the right of the senior Drill Instructor is my son.
He’s wanted to be a Marine since…forever. I brushed it off as fantasy when he was a little boy, and I cried it off as bravado when he was a Senior in high school. But when he turned 22 years of age, I could ignore it no longer.
We saw him graduate with the 3rd Battalion, Lima Company, on Friday. It was thrilling and scary at the same time. Conflicted feelings of pride, joy, and fear swirled around my heart in almost equal measure.
I saw him set a goal and reach it. Now I see that he needs to find his path, and it is no longer my job to protect him on it. I must let him walk it on his own.
“But if you love someone, then you want your beloved to be happy. You might feel frightened for him initially, but that feeling soon gives way to pride at seeing him do what he wants to do, and going where he’s dreamed of going.” ~Paulo Coehlo Manuscript Found in Accra

14 thoughts on “Going Where He’s Dreamed of Going”

  1. I love your posts about your son. I remember many moons ago when my husband entered the Air Force. So proud.. he is no longer in the military but still works for the Air Force. Thanks to your son for his service.


  2. Thanks for sharing, Bellezza! I just wanted to say Congrats to your son and that the Coelho quote you used really seemed to express how you feel perfectly. Hugs to you!!


  3. You are a great mom to have for your son. It isn't easy to let go of one's children once they are grown, you are doing it with so much grace and courage, bless you Meredith. Feel proud of this achievement, it allows your son to follow his dream. I am the mother of 3 sons, all on their own path and independent of me tbeir mom, I am so proud to have been able to achieve this. On the other hand I know this is your only child and can only imagine how difficult this must be. I admire you so much. God bless you and your son.

    Sylvie ( Madeleine)


  4. Beautiful quote, Meredith. Our job as the parents of “adult children” is just as emotionally draining as when they were toddlers. But the joy and pride we feel when they live their lives to the fullest is worth the anxiety. At least, that's what I remind myself of every single day. As Madeleine wrote, this is your only child and I know how much more difficult that makes it. We tend to focus all our energy on that “only,” don't we. I, too, admire you. Sending love your way in the months to come.


  5. Congratulations to your son and you too Mom! It's admirable that he is fulfilling a dream and a worthy goal. You both have done a great job!


  6. Perfect quote for the occasion. You're exactly right. I know those mixed feelings swirling around inside you as I've had them myself. It's so hard to raise your children to be the best they can and find God's call and even harder to watch as they do it and follow their path! This letting go of your children is a very hard thing.


  7. Oh isn't it hard to let them go? My son is in a very difficult place in his relationship with his girlfriend, and she is all he wants, all he thinks about. It is SO painful to watch, and yet all I can do is remind myself that interventions made out of fear never help anyone. But it's hard, it's hard! I feel for you, and know you'll do exactly the right thing. Sending hugs.


  8. I'm not a mum,but if I was, I'd wish I was just like you. Love, pride and eterneral concern, fear and hope, all these emotions – and more – yet you watch him steps out on his path and wait. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey with us. From my place in the world, watching things happening in the US this week, I would think its a very difficult week to see your son move one step close to 'where he's going'. Prayers and thoughts from here.


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