Mother’s Day

When people see my father and I together, they usually say, “Oh! You two are so alike!” This pisses my mother off to no end. She doesn’t like to be set apart. But, really, can you guess by looking at the picture above which is my mother? We have a brunette, a green alligator and a blond. Sometimes, I’m as similar to the green alligator as I am to my mother.

  • I am a curly haired brunette. My mother is a blond with straight hair.
  • I like to do things carefully and slowly. My mother likes to do things fast.
  • I like to be still and sit. My mother likes to move.
  • I like a peaceful, quiet environment. My mother likes bright light.
  • I like sweet things. My mother lives and dies for vegetables.
  • I like the safe and familiar. My mother likes challenge and change.
  • I like riding my bike. My mother likes riding horses.

These are just a few differences off the top of my head. It’s much more difficult to come up with our similarities

  • We both like to read.
  • We both love God.

I think that’s about it.

When I was little, I used to long for a mother along the lines of Opee’s Aunt Bea. You know: a large bosom, an apron, cookies from the oven, a comforting word.

That is not my mother. She’s always been trim, the food that came from her kitchen was more likely ratatouille than anything else, and her comforting words consisted of, “If it’s hard, it’s good for you.”

While these were difficult things for me to accept, I think they’ve been good for me. I’ll never have a passion for vegetables. Ever. But the life lessons? The passion for books, and God, and learning to be strong? Those things are invaluable to me.

Maybe it’s a good thing we can’t pick our mothers. Maybe we’re supposed to learn from, and appreciate, the ones we have.

21 thoughts on “Mother’s Day

  1. You mom looks like she could be your sister! Or for that fact, MY mother (it's that straight blonde hair).I hope you have a lovely Mom's Day, Belleza! I think I'm going to have to best one ever (see my blog).


  2. Happy Mother's Day.I'm always very envious of women who have good relationships with their mothers. A doff of the wig to you for appreciating your differences and trying to learn from them. I am not so broad minded.


  3. Happy Mother's day!And I'm with cupcake. And in your case in particular, it seems that the similarities, if fewer, are deeper things than the differences, which is a good thing.


  4. That's another thing we have in common. My dad and I are very much alike. Not physically, but in character and in likes. I treasure that.My mom and I are more different than alike. There are things about her that I admire and things that well… I'll let that go. :o)I feel that family is family for a reason. There are lessons we learn from family members that we might not really learn from others. We can walk away from others and be done with it. We can never "really" walk away from family.I hope you had a blessed Mother's Day. You were in my thoughts and in my prayers…


  5. I think it's funny that I would write about my mother for Mother's Day and so many people wrote about being a Mother (and what their children did for them). It made me wonder if I put too much priority on my mother's happiness because I certainly tend to focus the day around her.My own dear son gave me an ipod Nano, but better than that, a card inviting me to Starbucks with him. Where we can sit and read/talk together. There is no better present than time with the one you love.Thank you for the well wishes, each one, and one final comment: to those few who are at odds with your mother, I hope you are able to come to some understanding of each other. To those of us like our fathers, Father's Day is coming soon!


  6. I'm unfortunately shaped like my mom, now, but that's about it for similarity with us – well, apart from being Christians, as you said. We don't "get" each other at all. I hate that. It helps me to reflect on the fact that my dad and I were so much alike.


  7. I'm fascinated, bookfool, about you and the other women who commented (including myself) who say they have some "rough edges" with their mothers. I wonder why it's easier to understand our fathers, and easier to feel critiqued by our mothers…Food for a post, sometime. When I can figure out why. I just know that if I didn't come to peace with my mother, and believe me, it took a lot of effort, we'd have nothing. I wasn't willing to settle for a relationship of irritation, but at the same time I've had to constantly consider her needs. Which are often confused with her wants. Which are many… 🙂


  8. I wish I was more like my mother. She has always been gracious, warm, welcoming, dignified. I always thought I would be more like her than I am. Lovely picture of both you and your mom.


  9. Your last paragraph is your best. You didn't mention, though — is your brother like your mother?It is fun with three children to see how the traits shake out. Happy mother's day late… I offered my family the priviledge of guest blogging that day and they didn't. Ha. My mother was out planting caladiums. I would have been, too, if I lived where they would grow.


  10. I didn't blog on Mother's Day or about that day because I was under the weather. But my TT list was about the two most influential ladies in my life… my mom and abuela. I like how you took care to focus on the good of your relationship. I think that makes all the difference in the world. Focusing on the bad builds a wall up and it's hardens the heart.Your mom sounds a little like my mom. The more I read what you share the more I see we have in common. Glad to hear that you had a blessed mom's day. LOL! I too got a ipod Nano of my choice. I'm going to go pick it out today. :o)


  11. Lady G, I never thought I would like my ipod as much as I do! The best part is that there's no talking or advertising, and I can listen to all MY favorite songs. I downloaded a few Christian albums, a classical one, and then a few oldies from the 80's. Tell me what color you choose, and what you want to put on it. How fun!


  12. Ooops, I was told I could get a nano ipod, but the one I wanted was the ipod shuffle. Mainly cause it's itty bitty. So I'm still trying to figure out which one to get. If I get the itty bitty one I would probably go for the silver colored one. Mainly cause it's a neutral color. Even though I like the pink one, but it's to hot pinky for me. I would of liked a soft petal pink.If I get the nano one, I would probably get the new red one. Red is HOT! LOL! If not, I'd probably get the silver one.Decisions… decisions…Which one did you get?


  13. Lady G~, I got the hot pink one. But, that's because my newly diagnosed ADHD son couldn't remember I asked for GREEN. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining. I never thought I would love it as much as I do. The only thing to be wary of with the shuffle is that it doesn't hold many, many songs. I think silver would be a great choice!


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